You would recall a few weeks back we decided to try a new approach to pocket-money with the men-children. Rather than giving them money automatically each week, we moved to a user pays model, whereby they have to ASK for money for a set event, and in return do set jobs to actually EARN the money. Well readers I am delighted to tell you it worked!!!!
Both of the men-children wanted money the other weekend, so tasks were set. Apart from insisting their bedrooms were tidied, and various dirty dishes were collected from numerous points about the house, both were given jobs. Naturally their individual responses and approaches to the tasks were chalk and cheese, just like them.
Man-Child I was asked to hang out a load of washing after cleaning up his bedroom. He accepted the request without fuss, completed it promptly, finished his room, got his money and left. Job done, no fuss.
Man-Child II on the other hand complained from the minute the requests started. I decided since I had the upper hand in the situation that no stone would be left unturned. Every inch of his room was finally cleaned, and his doona cover was finally put on his doona after three weeks of pleading. Every wayward glass and plate finally found it’s way to the dishwasher. And the newly purchased school shorts were not left on the floor in a crumpled heap but folded and put in the cupboard. Such was the effort to get him to complete the most basic jobs he avoided any extra tasks – I honestly couldn’t bear it any longer. But he finally got paid, and I finally got a clean bedroom.
Interestingly Man-Child I later asked exactly what his brother had done to earn his money beyond tidying his room, and I muttered something about quite a lot (it’s all relative isn’t it?).
The point is, when they want/need money to fund their weekend entertainment, you’ve got them right where you want them. I am looking forward to clean bedrooms and a little extra help around the house in the future. It’s amazing how nice it is when you don’t have to hang out every load of washing yourself.
I got so excited about their new-found abilities, that we’ve also decided it’s time for the men-children to learn to cook, and to prepare a meal for the family once a week. Helping them gain a life skill, and helping Mother of a Man-Child and Father of a Man-Child have one less night at the stove after a day in the office. I’m sure there’ll be plenty of tales about their culinary skills (or lack thereof) to follow!