It’s funny how quickly your kids grow up. One day they desperately need you and think you’re the bees knees, and the next they want you to drop them a long way from the school gate, or better still not be seen ANYWHERE with them. And forget hugs and kisses – Yuk!
In our house we still have both extremes. My men-children are only interested in me for two things – money and transport (the latter only when it suits them but not before or after a party)! Oh and ensuring their clothes are washed, folded, ironed, replaced, etc, bountiful quantities of food are in the fridge, a hot meal is on the table each night, and the dishwasher miraculously fills and empties itself on a daily basis – but they’re all things that happen automatically, aren’t they? And lest Mother of a Man-Child or Father of a Man-Child should complain, the response – “Well you decided to have children. So that’s your job!!!”
Thankfully my dismay is tempered by the joy of having Sister of a Man-Child, who is still at the delightful age of complete and utter adoration for her parents. When we go out she would rather we stay home than leave her with the Men-Children (can’t blame her really), and she loves every opportunity to jump into our bed for cuddles. The highlight of her year is having Mum on tuck-shop duty (a very, very important event) that requires Mother of a Man-Child to be extremely vigilant to get on the roster, and then costs me at least $20 due to all the sudden best friends Sister of a Man-Child seems to have gained at school on said tuck-shop day.
Being Mother of a Man-Child is doubly hard with my sons as they naturally orient to other males at this age (oh and females of their OWN age). So one can feel quite left out at times – not easy for someone who likes to be in control and in the middle of everything. Of course they don’t mean it, it’s just the differences between the sexes becoming apparent. Yes I know I need to get off the adolescent bridge, but that doesn’t mean I have to like it… (“He’ll be Okay” by Celia Lashlie).
No doubt when Sister of a Man-Child is older, she and I will share “girls stuff” in the same way the boys and their father share “boys stuff”. But I also hope my daughter will maintain a special relationship with her father, and in time the boys and I will re-establish a special mother-son relationship. I know my father enjoys great relationships with each of his daughters (he was blessed to have four of us) and we wouldn’t trade them for the world. 🙂
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