Okay, I admit it. Perhaps the men-children are more mature than I thought? After leaving them at home alone last weekend, unsupervised for 48 hours, it appears that nothing untoward took place, and our house remains unscathed. Maybe, just maybe, the boys can be trusted more than I have given them credit for? Then again, maybe they just know that the price of failing our trust test was just too great, so they chose to toe the line?
Father of a Man-Child made the decision to tell one of the boys of our absence mid afternoon on Friday. He said we were away Friday night and POSSIBLY Saturday night but we weren’t sure (sneaky I know). In a twist of fortune quite frankly, his brother didn’t know until about 6pm when we were well on our way to our destination, and far too late for him to organise anything significant.
Father of a Man-Child also left strict written instructions for them (then they can’t say they didn’t understand what you said can they?):
- No sleep overs allowed with no parents present
- No gatherings of more than 5 people (read per man-child)
- No alcohol permitted with no parents present
- Curfew of 12.30am for all friends to leave our home
We sent a couple of text messages, just to establish their movements on Friday night – both home, alone, very boring indeed. On Saturday afternoon, a casual text arrives from one of the boys: “Are you coming back tonight?” instantly sending one’s imagination into overdrive as you would expect.
We discussed the response options open to us:
- Yep, we’ll be home later today (thereby killing any party plans, whether or not we actually planned to arrive home)
- Not sure, we’ll let you know later (ditto above)
- Why, are you planning something you shouldn’t be? (like he would tell us)
- No, we are staying another night. We could bullshit you but instead we are trusting you. Don’t let us down (that was my actual response)!!
So, we decided to trust them, and we decided to let them have some fun. We actually rang them late on Saturday night (yep, mid party) to speak to both of them. One had a few mates over, and one had his usual “harem” of girls over (including his girlfriend of course). It all sounded under control, with no slurring of their words evident, so at least we didn’t need to panic. Whilst we had requested that they have no sleepovers in our absence, we also confirmed with both of them that they were indeed having a couple of mates to stay – yep, totally inconsistent, but how exactly were we planning on enforcing it from 3 hours away? At least that way we knew what was happening.
We arrived home to a relatively normal house. No signs of it being cleaned to within an inch of it’s life, no breakages, no empties lying about, nothing really out of the ordinary. Father of a Man-Child says he found a few “rollie” stubs in the backyard – and promptly threw out the evidence before I could do the smell test!!! He thinks they were smoking tobacco – I am not quite so sure….
Our neighbour dropped by and actually complemented the boys on being well behaved in our absence. As a father (survivor) of two boys who are both now past their teens, I found that very comforting indeed.
So there you have it. I know it’s not very exciting blog material is it? It would make for a much better read if there was a scandalous story about some wild party at our house, with major mishaps thrown in for good measure. But then again, it’s also a refreshing change, and a sign that perhaps my little darlings are coming of age, slowly but surely, and that there is a small but visible light glowing at the end of the adolescent tunnel.
In case you missed the pre-cursor to this story, you can read it here: Men-Children alone in the house for a weekend